The Discussion of Forgiveness
If someone has ever done something to you that caused you pain or made you angry, you may feel that what they did was just unforgiveable. You may not be able to imagine ever being able to forgive that person. There are some people that say "time heals all wounds", but if you never address the issue that happened with that person, that wound may never be healed. I have known people to go many, many years not speaking to each other because they can't find it in their heart to forgive that person. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. Forgiving someone allows you to accept what that person did to you, and make the decision that you want to forgive them so you can move on without being uncomfortable when you see that person or someone mentions their name. It may take a long time until you can even begin to consider forgiveness. There is no timetable how long it will take you to get to that point, but at some point you should consider forgiving that person. When disagreements happen there's usually a lot of emotion involved. People's feelings are hurt, and the pain of what happened is something that they cannot easily forget. Taking as much time as you need to let the emotion subside, and possibly after that, you can start the process of forgiving that person. You may want to eventually have a conversation with that person to explain to them the pain they caused you. Sometimes the other person may not realize how much they hurt you. It is at this point that you can let that person know that you forgive them for what they did to you.
What I think a lot of people don't understand about forgiveness is that you can forgive someone for what they've done, but that does not mean that you are inviting them back into your life. You may decide that you can continue your relationship with that person as if nothing happened, but you may not want to resume that relationship for a variety of reasons. I believe that what you should consider when deciding to accept someone back in your life after you've forgiven them is whether or not they have accepted accountability for what they have done to you. You can forgive someone and they may never take accountability, but that's something they have to deal with. You need to forgive them for your own personal reasons. Whatever you decide to do is alright, but your main goal was to forgive that person so you can release yourself of the pain and anger you have been holding on to. That pain and anger is detrimental to your mental health and your inner peace. That pain and anger will stay in the back of your mind, and make it very difficult for you to move forward in your life.
Forgiving someone is a very difficult thing to do, and it is a process that each individual has to gauge for themselves how long it should take to do that. It's just a good idea to think about it, because living with deep seated anger for someone is not good for you. Start the process of freeing your mind and your heart from pain and anger because of the fault of others. If possible, communicate with that person to share your feelings about what happened. Just don't hold on to it for too long because life is so uncertain, and you should attempt to resolve it in a timely manner, but even if you can't, you have the power of forgiveness to free yourself from the weight you have been carrying on your shoulders.
What I think a lot of people don't understand about forgiveness is that you can forgive someone for what they've done, but that does not mean that you are inviting them back into your life. You may decide that you can continue your relationship with that person as if nothing happened, but you may not want to resume that relationship for a variety of reasons. I believe that what you should consider when deciding to accept someone back in your life after you've forgiven them is whether or not they have accepted accountability for what they have done to you. You can forgive someone and they may never take accountability, but that's something they have to deal with. You need to forgive them for your own personal reasons. Whatever you decide to do is alright, but your main goal was to forgive that person so you can release yourself of the pain and anger you have been holding on to. That pain and anger is detrimental to your mental health and your inner peace. That pain and anger will stay in the back of your mind, and make it very difficult for you to move forward in your life.
Forgiving someone is a very difficult thing to do, and it is a process that each individual has to gauge for themselves how long it should take to do that. It's just a good idea to think about it, because living with deep seated anger for someone is not good for you. Start the process of freeing your mind and your heart from pain and anger because of the fault of others. If possible, communicate with that person to share your feelings about what happened. Just don't hold on to it for too long because life is so uncertain, and you should attempt to resolve it in a timely manner, but even if you can't, you have the power of forgiveness to free yourself from the weight you have been carrying on your shoulders.
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